A Guide for Newbie’s . Screening Tips and Other Advice... Revised 7/04/10 - 44 | Boulder

UPDATE 7-07:I am in the process of moving my household and will be to busy with the moving process to be able to answer email or take calls until at least July 9th or 10th. If you email me please don’t expect an immediate reply. If you are new to seeing escorts, providers, companions, then I highly recommend that you read this for to ensure your safety and understanding in your new endeavor. Don't let fear of the unknown keep you from enjoying something you have a need or interest in. In any endeavor everything is always more enjoyable when everyone knows what is expected. Anyone including scammers and LE are free to post on these sites as well. You need to know how to screen a provider and do your homework before responding to a post if you want everything to run smoothly and avoid breaking the law and ending up in jail or being scammed. This article intended as a public service to help you from falling on your face when contacting an ASP...or worse. Please understand these are not rules but advice on protocol and etiquette when seeing an escort to give everyone an added level of comfort and help make everything run smoothly. Due to Backpage restrictions on mentioning other sites I will need to abbreviate preferred as P, the numbers 4 1 1 as simply 1 and date check as DC. So the screening sites I will refer to are p-1 and DC. This article is made up in sections. You can jump to any section by hitting Clrl and F at the same time to bring up a search engine on your keyboard and then just copy & paste or type in the section title you want to jump to. Here are the section titles ADVICE ON SCREENING TIPS ON SCREENING THE LADY YOU WANT TO SEE WHAT TO ESPECT WHEN BEING SCREENED WHAT YOU SHOULD NEVER DO NOW FOR THE HONEY DO FIRST ADVICE ON SCREENING Screening is as much to protect you as it is to make the lady feel safe and comfortable. LE stings and scammers are not going to screen you as their agenda is to get as many victims as possible to show up. You should screen the lady before contacting her and be ready and cooperative with her screening of you. Everyone can be and should be screened ladies and gentlemen alike. Screening can be very individual and sometimes creative depending on the information you have to give. Most gentlemen new to the hobby are very nervous about giving personal information. This is understandable and why you should conduct your own screening on her before seeing her. Be very selective of who you give information to. An ASP with a good reputation and that has been around awhile is all about discretion and will destroy any personal information used for screening including your last name. This also applies to screening sites but not necessarily so for agencies and is what leads to convections if a agency is raided. Seeing independents is often the safest way to go if you are selective and do your homework. TIPS ON SCREENING THE LADY YOU WANT TO SEE The safest way to go is to find a p-1 lady. They are prescreened and if reported as scamming, ripping gentlemen off or working with the LE they are banned for life. However you will still need to check her reviews as P-1 doesn’t prohibit up-selling and some are message only. You can go in as a guest to check out the ladies but you won’t see their contact info unless you are a member. However you can get their contact info by looking on their reviews. . Understand that there are many p-1 ladies (such as myself) that do not allow their member profiles to be shown to the public so a membership is required to see their profiles. There are also some ladies that see members only. If you are not a member but would be interested to join you can contact me for an invite that could entitle you to a 6 months free membership. DC is also another good way to go but their customer service is extremely lacking and they don’t keep as close an eye on the ladies activities and are not as selective of who they allow as members. P-1 has excellent customer service and is very easy to get a life person either on chat or the phone. They will also mediate if you ever have a problem with a lady. You will also want to check out her reviews regardless of where you found her. TOB is our local Colorado board and the best place to start. Unlike TER or other national sites you don’t have to be a member to read reviews. When checking her reviews look at the person that reviewed her first. By clicking on his name you will see other reviews he has written. More weight should be given to the reviews written by gentlemen that have seen several ladies. Be suspicious if ALL her reviews are written by gentlemen that have not written reviews for anyone else. Anyone can write a review and if all her reviews are written by men that have no other reviews it could indicate that these are false reviews written by her or personal friends and not hobbyist. After verifying the validly of her reviews then read the reviews themselves. Some ladies only offer sensual massage or don’t allow kissing or untranslated activities. And you will find ladies that charge extra for anything more than holding hands this is called up-selling. Reading her reviews will give you a good idea of what you might expect with your time with her. If you need help understanding the abbreviations I would be happy to send you a link. Sorry but BP restrictions will not allow me to place the link in this article. If she is not a p-1 member checking to see if she has posts on other sites is always a good idea. This can be done by typing in google her name + escort + phone number or email address. You may also want to check out her web site if she lists one but keep in mind that anyone can create a web site and this doesn’t really verify her as being anyone but someone that has gone to the trouble to create a site. Personally I have not found one necessary as yet but may create one someday. The more information she has out there the more likely she is a professional. WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN BEING SCREENED If you are p-1 and/or have at least 2 provider OK’s an appointment request including the phone number you use for hobbing is usually all that is needed. If you are not a p-1 member screening is usually done by asking for references you have seen before. Some men feel this would break confidentiality with the lady they saw before. Please understand that we all network to keep each other safe and this is perfectly acceptable. It is always a good idea to contact your reference first to let her know that she will be contacted by a provider for a reference. It can sometimes be discerning for a provider when she is contacted by another woman asking about a gentleman is this his wife? So it is always considerate and expedites screening when you give your references a heads up. You will also need to have links to her recent posts and reviews especially if she is out of state. I know that personally I will not call a lady unless I can verify her as a provider. I have had men give me the contact info for close female friends (or once even an ex-wife) trying to pass them off as ASP references so they could pass screening. This is not acceptable. Your references must be for a professional. No memberships or references? You can still be screened but it may take longer and you should not expect a same day appointment. The lady screening you will need the phone number you use for hobbing to check on provider ‘bad date’ sites to make sure there are no bad reports on you. She may also ask for a first and last name to check against your drivers license and verify employment if necessary. WHAT YOU SHOULD NEVER DO 1. Don’t contact a lady without first screening her. The only men I have ever known to get ripped off, scammed or arrested were men that just assumed because the lady had an ad or web site she must be ok. Don’t let yourself become one of them do your homework. If you are unable to find her reviews or other information you want contact her and ask for links. If you introduce yourself and tell a little about yourself in this contact you are much more likely to get a response. I always find it a little scary when someone just writes asking for information without introducing himself. I have found that just assuming often leads to regrets. < p> 2. Put in your email or discuss on the phone anything that could be even remotely misconstrued as soliciting for prostitution. This is a crime in the state of Colorado and puts us both at risk for prosecution. This goes for phone call also. If I even think you are trying to solicit me for prostitution I will hang up on you as will many of the reputable ASP’s. 3. Ask questions that could be answered in her post such as rates unless you truly don’t understand. You could come off sounding like LE intent on entrapment. And never never haggle about her rates. If she is running a special she will state that in her ad. There is no greater insult than a man trying to haggle a lady down on what she feels she is worth. If there is a lady you would like to see but she is out of your budget range or you would not be able to see often because of her rates and can offer a service to her such as being a standby when she has a no show, no regular appointments scheduled or just having cravings of her own that need to be satisfied then let her know she may be willing to work with you. You will find most low volume providers to have big hearts and be very understanding. It is highly recommended that you not do broach this subject in your first contact but pony up for your first appointment so she will already know you and have a comfort level with you. There are many things in life that we want but can’t afford. But those things that are really important to us we put back and save for. 4. Be offended if you are running late and she is unable to extend your appointment time and your tartness cuts into your appointment time. She may have other things planned for after her appointment with you that she cannot reschedule like family obligations or personal appointments. She does have a real life outside of being a provider and other obligations. Most good providers will be understanding and extend your appointment end time if at all possible. 5. Show up early. There are a lot of little details that go into preparing for a date like getting refreshments ready and lighting candles and even 5 minutes early can throw us off. 6. Deviate from the agreed upon plan. If she asks to meet you in a restaurant don’t surprise her in the parking lot. I have come very close to canceling an appointment because a gentleman thought it would be fun to deviate from our agreed upon plan and surprise me. I was almost to frightened to go through with it. However he was very apologetic and understanding and offered to extend our date to give me extra time to get back in my comfort zone. Never good to start off a date by scaring the bee-geebies out of a lady. 7. Don’t bombard her with phone calls or email. Understand that she may have a very busy life and be respectful of her time. 8. Don’t assume that because she is enjoying herself as much as you are that it is ok to go over your appointment time with out compensating for it. The best providers will only agree to see gentlemen they are relatively sure they will have a good time with. Most or ok if an appointment goes over by 10 or 15 minutes (unless they are ones that charge for the quarter hour) but if you go over by a half hour or more compensation needs to be made for the extra time spent. The appointment begins the moment you walk in the door and is not over until the moment you walk out. Again, be respectful of her time. 9. Never show up intoxicated or on any other form of drug. We want to get to know you for you are not you in an altered state. If you are nervous let your lady know and she will probably meet you at the door with a glass of wine or cocktail of your choosing. But we have other (better) ways of making you feel comfortable very quickly. NOW FOR THE HONEY DO’S 1. Check on ladies reviews and read her post. DO YOUR HOMEWORK! The only gentlemen that I have ever hear of having been arrested or of having a bad experience with an ASP (such as a bait and swithch or other scams) is because they didn’t screen her first before calling. Learn as much as you can about someone before seeing her. 2. Be honest and upfront during screening. If she catches you in a fabrication you may consider the screening over and your number may go into her ignore list preventing any future contact. 3. Arrange a meeting time as much in advance as possible especially if you are dealing with a low volume provider and this is your first appointment with her. Not enough can be said for anticipation. A high volume provider may not require this but a low volume provider usually enjoys putting a lot of planning into her appointments. The more time given to plan and prepare could well mean a better appointment for you. However don’t hesitate to call her for a last minute appointment to see if she is free. She could have had a no show and be ready to go. If she has just been stood up, regardless of what you look like, when she opens that door all she will see is a knight in shinning armor and this could only work to your benefit. 4. If you need to cancel let her know ASAP. A last minute cancelation is little better than a no show but still better. A cancelation call is always disappointing but can be understanding. Never cancel by text or email talk to her in person or leave her a voice message. A no call/no show will ensure that she will not make another appointment with you and could have you banned within the ASP community. It is no secret that we providers have provider only sites were we ban together to give the scoop on a bad client to keep each other safe. You do not want your name showing up on one of these sites. 5. Call at the on or before the prearranged time to confirm your appointment. 99.9% of the time gentlemen who do not make this call wind up being a no show. Being even 5 minutes late with a confirmation call could result in her thinking you are going to be a no show and making other plans if she gets a call for someone wanting to see her immediately. After all, she has spent an hour or two getting ready for you so she is ready to go if someone else calls and you wouldn’t believe how often this will happen. 6. Show up freshly showed and with fresh breath. If you are coming to the appointment from a job site and need to shower on arrival let her know in advance so she will have everything ready for you. She may even offer to jump in with you. Just be aware that this is on your time and a part of the appointment. Im sure you want to see a lady that is well groomed and presentable and if you give her the same consideration it can only ad to her enjoyment that can only result in her heightening yours. Besides, she just might want to jump in with you :) 7. Show up on time or call if you are running even a little late. Don’t let her think even for a minute that you will be a no show. This could result in her having a different attitude from the lady that was just anticipating your arrival with wild excitement just a few minutes before. No reason to put a damper on your meeting when you are this close to having an amazing time. 8. When you arrive at her location take stock in your surroundings. If you see anything suspicious like someone hanging around her in-call or setting in a van near by then don’t stop but drive up the street and give your ASP a call and let her check out the situation for you. This is especially important if her in-call is a hotel. That is unless you want to have a completely new experience in your life like a run-in with LE but wouldn’t think so. If her in-call is in a private home this can usually be easily explained. When my neighbors across the street moved out the workmen during the move and the ones that came to clean up after would often go to their trucks to have a smoke or take a break (it was cold out). But it was a cause for concern for a few days and I was really proud of the gentlemen that took my advice and called me when I forgot to warn them upfront about the activity, I knew I was meeting a gentleman that was as concerned with safety as myself and someone I could feel safe and comfortable with. Sometimes it’s the little things :) 9. Present your donation for her time at the beginning of your appointment in a discreet manner. Don’t put her in the awkward position of having to ask for it. If meeting in public put it in an envelope marked gift. If meeting in a private location it is best to excuse yourself to wash your hands and leave it in plain sight in the wash room. Never hand it to her. 10. Don’t hesitate to show your appreciation for her if she has given you exceptional service, you have made special requests, or you go over your time by 10 or 15 minutes and she was a good sport about it. Tips are never expected but always appreciated. Even a small tip of $20 will say more than words that you really liked her and would like to see her again. 11. And finally the most important thing Set your expectations high and plan on having a wonderful time :) nuru massage in denver,boulder escourts,body rub backpage,denver escorts tryst,ts escorts in colorado,escorts longmont,boulder escort,best escorts sites,asian massage backpage,escorts boulder co

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